Jason and I went to Barnes and Noble last night to look for a good book for me. We found one called Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves. I know, I know...it sounds like one of those 1970's I'm Okay You're Okay touchy feely books. But it looks like exactly what I am needing. I was perusing it last night and stumbled across a section called "Disengaged Families." It fit my family to a tee. It said something about how these kinds of families have very strict boundaries with each other, but little to no boundaries with people outside the family. Also, there tends to be a family scapegoat. That is us! So, I'll read it and report back later.